11:14 PM

on my current self esteem issues

so basically i have pretty crappy self esteem, and for good reason. i have never been on a date, had a boyfriend, or anything close to a boyfriend who wanted to actually admit it, and i have never been kissed.  i guess sometimes i have a hard time because it seems like the only people that say i am pretty are the mentally deranged, the elderly, family or people that see me as family, and painfully patronizing females. there have been maybe one ore two exceptions, but they were those kind of people that can find beauty in dirt. which basically leaves me feeling like there is something horribly wrong with me. i can count on one hand when i have liked someone who liked me back. i can also use one hand to count the number of males that have followed through and actually told me they found me attractive in a non sisterly kind of way, after i finished counting that first part. 

i know i am not ugly per se. i just feel ugly, or like there is something wrong with me. maybe im such a pill that guys see me and want to run the other way. it feels like maybe the very core of who i am is unattractive to sane human males my age. yup that about sums it up, who i am is unattractive. its the only explanation. the other theory is that God has basically put an ugly bubble around me to "protect" me, and i just have to wait for prince charming to pop it. right now this ugly bubble looks pretty impenetrable. its gonna take a superhero. 

11:01 PM

on goal progress

so i applied to a couple of places to become a volunteer. i met my friend r and his girl for some coffee ( i didn't get anything, i don't like coffee). i figured out the baseline for linus and lucy. and i decided to add some rules. so for the whole self esteem thing (which i think i ended up at minus 105 today) i decided that i am going to make the effort to look presentable everyday. like wear make up and dress with clothes that aren't from the bottom of a pile of laundry i have yet to put away and stuff like that. i figure maybe if i look better i might feel better about myself. also for the whole reading every book on in my library once, i decided to up the ante and say that i cannot buy or check out another book until i complete this goal. this one is gonna be a challenge now. 

my brother leaves tomorrow. he takes me places and helps me to be a well rounded individual. so i guess its back to the hermitage. 


12:56 AM

on my goals for the new year

wow. another year. i am strangely optimistic about this year. i dont know. something about being in church when the clock struck twelve made a little miracle in my soul. like 2008 melted into oblivion and all that was left was that moment of communion and the possibilities to come. so in a cheerful disposition i shall name my top ten goals for this year. 


1. reconnect with God
2. lose weight, some weight, any weight, a quarter pound would even be nice right now (i figured i should make my goals feasible)
3. pay off a good portion of my debt
4. volunteer at least once a month at a free clinic/hospital
5. be a good friend to the friends i have left and take the hard way and not isolate myself
6. graduate from nursing school, pass my state boards
7. learn how to play "Linus and Lucy" on the piano
8. read every book in my library at least once
9. go on one missions trip after i graduate and use my new nursing skills to help others
10. learn how to not beat myself up and take my self esteem from a negative 100 to at least a zero. 

i think these are all possible. we shall see. hears to hope.... HAPPY NEW YEARS!!!